That I’m intimidating. But it’s mostly because they’re already intimidated LOL. It can also be due to me being in my head most of the time. I am a thinker and I’m an observer, so when first meeting me I can be a wallflower just watching and observing the environment. I’m an introvert, but a lot of people also mistaken me as an extrovert (which I can be, but it is not my default trait). I’m an INFJ!!!

Also, as a dark skinned person, we’re often judged right away because of our exterior, and being tall and fit allows more judgment (good and bad). I never had insecurities about my appearance (no matter what phase of my life, or how much extra weight I had on my body), however, it use to bother me of how others would view me. It would seem as if they were not giving me a chance. I now ignore the assumptions, as it helps me filter out who should and shouldn’t be in my life.

I remember a client once told me they thought I was intimidating, but once they got to know me they realized they were wrong. I asked why were they intimidated and they admitted my confidence made them feel a certain way. I’ve learned throughout my own journey that it’s those who are very insecure with themselves that think of me in a negative way, however, it is not my duty or anyone else’s to make others feel big or small, that’s an inside job that a lot of us have yet to master. I believe the more comfortable you are with yourself the more uncomfortable some people will be, but that doesn’t mean you have to dim your light because it’s too bright for them.

So keep on SHINING!

Daily Prompt: January 9, 2022