I remember always being in a relationship. I remember a lot of those times not putting myself first. The idea of making sacrifices and the idea of being loved back unconditionally sounds like LOVE, but it’s not always love. Now being single for over a year, and almost 2 years before him, I’ve reflected and found myself under a lot of unnecessary conditions, and being uncomfortable.

What is love if its not?

You can’t beat yourself up about it, you’re not the only one in the relationship.

You have to know when to let go.

Brahmacharya is what I’ve been practicing a lot more of. If you do your research, some describe as abstaining from sex, or something enjoyable. But for me it’s not just that. It’s about how I’m using my energy, being more mindful where I’m placing my energy, so I don’t fall back into those habits. I’ve been getting back to myself, learning more about myself, and dating myself, again. Giving myself all the love and care I’ve been missing from the past, not just from people, but from MYself!

You don’t need to be in a relationship to fulfill YOURself, although some people may feel the need. I don’t, not anymore. This is my newfound freedom, being free to do what I want, and not feeling ashamed about it. Brahmacharya has allowed me to get back to the things I DO enjoy, so it is not about restraining for me.

It is about discovering!

Letting go will set you free, what is love if you’re distracted and NOT enjoying YOUR life?