Learn To Date Yourself (Be Your Own Boyfriend/Girlfriend)

FeaturedLearn To Date Yourself (Be Your Own Boyfriend/Girlfriend)

I’ve been working on “my bad habits”, and one of them is to not go from one relationship to another. Instead, I’m learning to have a relationship with myself. It’s been awhile to be honest, and it makes me think how much I’ve lost myself being around the wrong people. You wouldn’t lose yourself around the right ones, so that’s why it is important to really learn about yourself, and this includes having a relationship with yourself, first….

Put YOUrself first. This means your priorities, feelings, morals, values, instincts, etc. Whatever is a part of you, shall come first before anyone else’s. Learn to separate that from others. Learn to accept that your responsibility is about YOU. Learn to be a little more selfish. This will eventually allow you to become selfless, when the time is right, and with the right people. Don’t go against the timing of your SelfLove, always have this on the top of your list. Your self love is the ultimate importance of your vision. The other day I posted on IG and explained how it is important to treat yourself, take yourself out, and really begin doing things that you enjoy, even if its alone. One of the other trainers, and myself, was talking about how there is this stigma of having to do things in the company of others, and how we need to change this type of mentality. Why do, why wait, why not? Why do we do this to ourselves? We miss out on opportunities because of the company of someone else. We need to be a bit more assertive to our needs, wants, desires, and we need to be in more control of how we want to approach these things. We only miss out because of ourselves. We don’t need to put that responsibility on someone else, and for what? 

This brings the point to learn to date yourself. Act as if you are the boyfriend/girlfriend of whom you desire, and treat yourself as so. Put that responsibility of being there emotionally, physically, mentally, to yourself. Put the responsibility of support, love, creativity, inspiration, and really motivate yourself as if you are not yourself, know what I mean… Learn about yourself as if you are really dating yourself, get to know yourself a little bit more. I’ve been doing this for almost a year now, and I love it. I’m learning so much about myself that I haven’t realized some of myself before. It is new, and a bit tricky, but keep practicing, and keep yourself busy. When you begin feeling discouraged, use that time to take a break. Unwind, unplug, undo, wherever you are, just unYOU yourself and take a timeout. We can’t expect to go on full speed all the time, and we have to take a break sometimes so we can charge. Just like our phones, you know. Learn to charge your batteries. 

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Do something different! When I feel like I’m in a funk, or feel discouraged, or maybe a bit overwhelmed, I’ll find something different to do, even if it doesn’t require much. Think of this as a time to go on an adventure. Walk at a new park, read a new book, take yourself out on a date to a place where you haven’t ate before. Or do nothing, and relax.

Give yourself time to really figure YOU out, this will take time, but actually take the time by applying a little more effort into yourself and well-being. You’ll learn more about yourself, and begin admiring others who share these commonalities. 

Practice, Patience, and Perseverance,

M0j0

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Your Passion Is Your Calling

FeaturedYour Passion Is Your Calling

Take a pause and think of what you’re good at. Now think of how you can incorporate that into your daily life. Now this passion does not have to be a part of your job, it can be something like a hobby. But whatever it is let it call you, and answer it.

I previously wrote about distractions, and how it limits us from our actions, and this is pretty much like your passion trying to call you, but you keep declining the call, so it leaves you a message, and you still don’t return its call. Don’t allow time to pass you by so much that you’re missing out. Not necessarily on opportunities, but more so on  life. LIVE a little 😛

Tap in to what you’re good at, because it is not just about you, but instead the bigger picture. INFLUENCE! I was thinking the other day about how much I enjoy making an impact on people. Helping them, encouraging them, making them laugh, think, and feel good overall. This is something I’m good at. I’ve always been the light of a dark day, and this has always been a natural thing, but as I become older, I’m learning that not everyone enjoy this LOL. Making people feel good draws them closer to you because it is warm, non-judgmental bonding type of vibe, and you can’t get that everywhere. However, there are people who are not use to that type of treatment, so it makes them feel a little uncomfortable when you try to LIGHTen them up. That use to bother me, that they were bothered with my positivity, but then I realized that many people are not use to that. Some people thrive when negativity strikes, and that has nothing to do with you. But don’t allow that to distract you, keep driving and digging to your calling. 

Don’t allow your passion to become dampened because of what, or who is around you. This can be tricky, and damn right discouraging, but instead allow your passion to call you more, put that ringer on blast! When I say tap into your passion, I’m thinking intensely so, making it a part of your life, period! We all have all daily tasks and habits, but imagine how greater it is to include your passion into it. I bet you’d have a better day, or make someone else’s day better. If you like singing, then sing! any chance you get, and feel good about doing it too. Tap in to it more, by making time for it, because you want to. It begins with your mindset, and wanting to do something is better than having to do it. Don’t turn your passion into a chore. We already have enough going on as humans, so don’t make your passion a burden. Even if you become tied up with your responsibilities, make some type of effort to tap in. For example, I’ll carry a journal around so I can write, or sometimes in my phone. Doing this makes room for me to still enjoy making others feel good, while making myself feel good in the process. You want your passion to create balance to better serve you and others around you. It is your world. 

To be good at anything, you must practice it, so you can master it!

M0j0 

Happy 1 Year Anniversary To My Locs!

FeaturedHappy 1 Year Anniversary To My Locs!

I cannot begin to express how grateful I am for my lil babies. I love all 76 of them (I think there’s 76) lol. I plan on counting them again, but anyways….My year was on July 11th. I remember it so clearly too! I’ve always wanted to loc my hair, but I wasn’t too sure on when, and of course you want to make sure you are ready. And I was that day. It was a sudden urge for me to do it and I just went for it!

Look at the progress (happy tears)

 

I must admit the length now is too much lol. I’ve always switched my hairstyles, but most of my favorite and convenient styles were worn short, so this is interesting yet I am happy to try something different. I don’t look forward to going back either, like I’ve said before I like my fro, but I love my locs. The convenience of it alone wins, because I can’t stand having to do my hair every day, especially as a personal trainer. Having a busy schedule works wonders when you’re not all up in your head all the time, and wash day is a breeze!

I still do not use a lot of product, and I wash once or twice a week, and not re-twisting each time either. To be honest, you don’t need to re twist on a schedule, just when you feel you really need it. On average, I probably re-twist every other month. I like the new growth, but when it’s time, you’ll now. You just have to listen to your hair. I still use the VO5 shampoo (clarifying shampoo) and conditioner. I like the VO5 conditioner because it is not thick, and more on the watery side. Now always keep in mind that a journey, is just that, and most importantly it is YOURS, so always do what works for you.

It’s nice to get advice, and ideas from others, but when you figure out something for you, it may or may not work for others. That’s okay, keep embracing your journey and continue to learn. This can go for anything! The focus though is on you, you’ll know what works, and you’ll know what you deserve. A journey for me, is actually about listening to yourself more, and not being moved by distractions or popularity. It’s about finding the pieces to a puzzle, putting them together, and making something beautiful from it….LIFE!

Have fun with it, and live your life happily!

Til next time,

M0j0

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Pay Attention & Take Note…

Not everyone sees the things you see, and maybe they’re not suppose to. You see things for a reason, and yes it is unclear sometimes on why you see it, but use what you see to your advantage to help yourself, and others. You ever do something for someone, or see something and thought “why did I have to see that?” or why did this happen? I like to look at these incidents as a shift coming into action. Pay close attention to these circumstances. Sometimes, I feel that random things happen to prepare us for the next step of our journey. You have to learn to use these opportunities as a a way to learn. This can either be for your advantage, or maybe for someone else. Just pay attention.

The answer might be right in front of you, or maybe a question will pop in your head, but whatever the case is, if you pay close attention you’ll discover something you may have not discovered before. Take notice to these things, behaviors of others, and what they say and how they say it. It can be anywhere, and anyone, but you paying attention is being thoughtful about the situation. Exercise your thoughts! too many of us are not fully utilizing our brain. This doesn’t mean you have to come up with a solution, it just means to think, more so exercising your mind to become more mindful. Sounds simple right? Our way of thinking triggers from our habits. We become so use to thinking a certain way, or not thinking at all.

This creates issues, such as misunderstanding others, or ourselves, jumping into conclusions, and just plain thinking you know everything. We all do not have the answers, yet we should be open-minded into thinking about the possibilities. There can be more than one right or wrong answer, or solutions, yet we have to learn to expand the way we think. Once we have mastered this, we can expand our way of doing other things. Think about it. You learn to master the way you think, and began paying attention more, and then become more open and even wiser about your actions. 

The more you pay attention, the more you create for yourself, but you have to put in the work. It takes practice, and all of us can enhance our way of thinking, and being.

Take it one day at a time, and consider the new things you notice when you pay close attention.

Any new thoughts?

M0j0

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The Power Of “Speaking It Into Existence” pt.1 (Beginning With Our Thinking)

We have to get out of the habit of negative self talk. Seriously, why do we set ourselves up for failure? Don’t you get sick of it? 

Think about it, and consider how it’s been working for you, the negative talk, because in all honesty where has it gotten you? I’ve got to the point of ignoring the negative thoughts, wait let me back up a bit. I listen to the thought, but ask myself why? Then I ask myself why not, because you don’t want those thoughts to hinder your progress, right. Yeah, whatever change you’re going through is going to be challenging, but we know that we have to challenge ourselves to change. This is the only way out. Stop giving yourself excuses, this of course is another way to distract yourself from what you should be doing. 

I believe we all do this, some more or less than others, but it is a habit that we all need to work on. Nobody is perfect, we will always encounter negative, or other random thoughts, but it is important to recognize it and be careful on how you speak on it. This is for anything, yourself, others, opportunities, etc. The focus is to speak things into existence that will help you get to the next step, and it obviously involves the way we react to our thinking. Be MINDFUL, ask yourself questions and don’t be afraid to dissect your own thoughts. So many people have the answers for others, without being aware of their damn selves. Don’t be that person, figure out what it is you can do to improve yourself. It is never too late to improve something. You already have it, you just need to go get it.  

Remember you deserve the best, so treat yourself with the respect you deserve. Thinking positively is an exercise, so this is just a reminder that you are worthy.

Think of more solutions, and begin preparing yourself for the week ahead. Baby steps. Think it and speak it into existence. Good, you are being more proactive than you think.

Take care, 

M0jo

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The All High and Mighty and Miserable…

Some of ya’ll really crack me up. You say all the bad things of the world, yet you still succumb to it in some way shape or form. You know why, because you are still Human, and not perfect, and will never be perfect. Whenever I see people like this, it makes me appreciate the person I am, because I’m not perfect, nor do I try to be. My goals, and my true purpose in life and that’s to LIVE and LOVE the life I’m living. That should be a simple tool for each and one of us to use when referring to how we should live our lives. NO ONE IS COMING OUT ALIVE, so LIVE, and LOVE. I can guarantee you’ll appreciate your life much better. This of course comes to letting go of control, and your ego.

Go ahead and limit yourself, but how do you feel when you do, miserable right? It is okay to be cautious, but to do so in fear defeats the purpose of living. I cannot say how I choose to live is the best way, but no one can, because we are all different. The way that things may affect you and your body, may not do the same for someone else. Think about the different animal breeds we have, we are all not the same, we don’t all act, and react the same. This is one of the reasons why I choose to keep things as general, yet real as I can. We can all read the same book, but we will all gain something different from it. This is why I feel diversity is necessary, sharing and learning from each other is how we will evolve. Acting all high and mighty will make you miserable. Think about all the people who you believe is powerful, they are miserable. Think about the super conscious people, miserable, the poor, miserable, the rich people are miserable, the happy or the sad, and its understandable, trust me I get it. We live in a world that has allowed a lot of us to become miserable because of all the different shit we learn and observe, but it doesn’t mean to stop living. Don’t lose the human touch because you think you are God. No one is. We hold a special piece, and it is up to you on how you use that power, but don’t do it in misery. Instead do it out of love. There is a huge difference.

So, LIVE, beautifully, unapologetically, but not in misery. Remember just like the food we absorb, we absorb our feelings too, which is just as bad. Don’t forget about your feelings. Just like the food we eat to nourish our bodies, we have to nourish our feelings too. So keep that in mind. The body is our temple, but what about your mind, your soul, your destiny?

Limit yourself if you want, but remember LIFE is for the Living…

M0j0

It’ll Never Be Perfect…

But still make the best of it.

You ever try to plan something so accordingly that you think nothing can go wrong, and maybe nothing goes wrong per se, but the plan still didn’t go as planned. It makes you feel some type of way right? I know, I’m a perfectionist too, and being a perfectionist can be quite daunting while trying to accomplish something. UGhHhhhhH!!! it is annoying to know what you need to do, and yet you make plans for them to not go all the way through, as you wanted. But you know what, it will be okay.

This is to show you that you are not always in control, and that sometimes a change of course can be better in the long run. There are more things to learn, so you have to first learn to trust the timing, as well as the process. Everything cannot always be on your time, how selfish are you? (sticks out tongue :P) Although, most times we are doing things to benefit ourselves in some way, we still have to abide by the rules along the way. Well, not necessarily “rules,” but we have to think of the process in this way at times. This is to let you know that life is an experience, so we are free to do what ever we choose, but at the same time we have to make sacrifices too. And these sacrifices are to help us get to the greater result. Trust the timing, and I guarantee that once you’ve passed this level in your life, you’ll have more to gain, wisdom being at the top, obviously.

But that’s the beauty about life not being perfect. It it were to be perfect, we would damnear predict and know everything, and we shouldn’t. Instead, we should be more willing, and this can help resolve a lot of our “worldly issues”. Be more willing to learn, because this is how we grow ultimately, but we also have to be more willing to do. Of course, it will never be perfect, but being willing to do things will help us get to the next level. The more willing we are in doing things, the more resilient we’ll become.

We have to be willing to make adjustments in our lives, and not being in control all the time will help allow us to become more resilient along the way.

You got this!

M0j0