Stop making yourself bigger than you really are. And this isn’t to downplay your character, or belittle you. BUT it is to let you know that not everyone cares about what you have to say. Some people place themselves in a role of heroism, and yet they can’t even save themselves.

What do I look like listening to someone who’s hurt and confused?

What do I look like listening to someone who doesn’t love themselves?

Instead they point the finger, because it is everyone else’s problem, and if we don’t do as they say we’re peasants!

That’s right! PEASANTS!

I had a conversation with this person who kept referring people to peasants, and it made me uncomfortable. I did the nervous chuckle not knowing how to respond, but I continued to listen. You learn a lot about a person when they’re speaking, and he was hurt. I can tell there was a lot of emotional baggage. And in my past, I would’ve been drawn to this, because of my own emotional baggage, but time and healing has changed that.

I’ve learn the only way out is to go within…

“Just because you go through a lot in life doesn’t mean you’re God” is what I said to him. I was sick and tired of him thinking he was the know all of it all. People who are always wanting “to help” people, but can’t help themselves are deflecting. And when you do a lot of self reflecting you understand that you can’t help everyone. Remember the saying, you can only help those who want it, well he had a had a hard time accepting that.

As I reflect back on these intense conversations, I feel like he needed someone to vent to, someone who will listen to him, but there was only so much listening I can do.

We had a lot of different views, and although I understood where he was coming from, it didn’t mean I was going to change my morals and values. But that’s the thing about critical thinking. When someone “understands” does this really mean they “accept things”?

NO!

I began noticing different patterns, the highs the lows. And for me, a HSP and empath, I didn’t understand why he was making his life more complicated than it was. The stress and drama from his past kept resurfacing. He hasn’t healed from it. And instead he kept re-living it…

And that’s why his past kept haunting him. He chose to hang onto the things he couldn’t let go of. His ego and his heart were still broken from his childhood and early adulthood. He would talk about the past, and if I mentioned something relatable he would dismiss it. This quickly became one-sided, and I wasn’t going to keep going down his misery memory lane.

So I brought up therapy.

“Oh I don’t need therapy” he says…

“Everyone needs therapy” I said.

In the world we live in, there will be a time where you need therapy. And that’s okay. Therapy has been getting a bad rep, or has this misconception that it’s only for a certain group of people, or it doesn’t work…

And that’s the problem with society now. There are so many people in denial. Some are quick to point the finger but refuse to look in the mirror. Some are constantly putting themselves above others, while they’re sinking below. It’s time to really do some SELF-WORK! (self-reflecting and self-healing).

BUT you have to be willing to do the work!

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