Woke up feeling empowered today!
July 11th to be exact, and this is only the beginning, like literally!
So, I am now starting my deadlock journey, and I ain’t ever going back, unless I cut my hair very short. I debated back and forth ever since I wore twisties back when I was about 18 years old. At that time I wasn’t ready to commit to the process, but now I am as ready as I’ll ever be.
What some people don’t understand in the African American, or black culture, is that we rock different hairstyles as a way to express our uniqueness. This of course gives us many options right, so we switch things up a bit. However, my mindset at 18 wasn’t focused on this type of journey, and to be honest, you have to be ready for such a drastic change.
On top of neglecting my hair for over about a week, or two I looked at some old pictures and thought you know I want to do something different. I had so many thoughts running through my head, and emotions from this worlds chaos. Then, I had the thought of turning 30, in two months!!
I was craving something different, something bold, but I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do. All of a sudden while playing in my hair, I though why not begin locking this shi* up? My hair is extremely nappy, yeah I said it nappy (so what) but I love her. However, I noticed the longer she gets the nappier, kinkier, coily-er, she gets too. I’m sure I made up a couple of words, but you get the drift.
What some people may also not understand is the type of maintenance you have to put in with kinkier textures. It’s a lot! and it can be time consuming. A couple of months ago, I brought up the idea of locking my hair to my sister and mother, so they kinda knew I was itching for this, but at that time I wasn’t ready to get rid of my Afro.
I had cut my hair a few inches to maintain the shape, but I begin to grow sick of it. I tend to hide my hair, and wear protective styles, so my fro was just the icing on the cake, but once I got over it I knew it was time.
I’ve been natural for about 10 years, and wore wigs, lace fronts, braids, weaves, you name it. I enjoyed all the styles. But it wasn’t until I began wearing my natural hair out that made me feel even more confident than I already was.
I honestly believe that a simple change can bring other changes. Sometimes that’s what you have to do, especially if you feel you’re in a funk. Some people get a hair cut, or change their hair color, and you notice they got a little pep in their step. Well at least that’s how I feel LOL.
Anyways, this is just to encourage someone out there to do something different. Even if it’s not with your hair, a little change in something can make a huge difference.
Live a little 😉