If You Only Knew…

FeaturedIf You Only Knew…

The love I have for you is so real, that it’s rare. I know, you sometimes feel a bit uneasy, intimidated even. But know that I love you, so there is nothing to fear. But what if there is? Would you be open to talk to me about it? Would you trust me enough to know that I care, and want what’s best for you. I love you, so don’t fear, just tell me how you really feel. I see how you look at me, I’m not a stranger, you and I are quite familiar. Different because of our own perception…. Have we failed to learn about one another as one and not as individuals? Because we are one, you and I. And you are not alone, ever. If you only knew the love I have for you is more than just a friend, a colleague, a lover, my fellow human. I root high for you, we can all win together. I know you can do this if you want, but you have to be open to love. If you only knew the love I have for you, maybe you wouldn’t judge. Is it too overwhelming for you? Let the overflow of my love carry along and release . Do you want it? Would you be able to handle it? 

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Ask Yourself…

Ask Yourself…

Are you living your life fearfully or are you fulfilled fully?

I don’t know about you, but so much has changed for me in the year, but I couldn’t be happier where I am now. It took a lot out of me to get here, but now that I am here, I’m not leaving.

My “here” is myself….. Doing things that make me feel coMpletE….

Realizing that changes take a lot of sacrifices, and redirecting your focus, A LOT not just a time or two. It is different. You are becoming different, so this requires doing things differently. It is so uncomfortable, but that’s okay, we embrace it…we must learn to.

Life is seriously like a roller coaster, the thrill can be scary, excited, unsure, etc. But we must still learn to enjoy the ride. Or like when you’re commuting somewhere for the first time, you never know how the traffic is going to be until you drive. Just buckle up and go. Ask yourself, are you living, or are you just alive? Check in with yourself sometimes, and know that it is okay to take that step back to check in. Often times we’re just coastin’, and floatin’ through the days and become burnt out from it. Pause, breathe….or breathe, stretch, shake, let it go LOL (music break). Anyhow, take a break from your tasks…Living is not just about working, creating, eating, cleaning, and what have you, sometimes you just need to chill and not do anything. Or maybe you need to hang out around other people, or maybe alone. Ask yourself what you need to do so you can learn to live life fully, and in that moment…don’ just float around, you are not a balloon.

Remind yourself of this daily, it takes practice, but maybe you’ll become more aware of this and learn to appreciate your days, or learn to make them better…You deserve the best after all right? 

M0j0

Learn To Date Yourself (Be Your Own Boyfriend/Girlfriend)

Learn To Date Yourself (Be Your Own Boyfriend/Girlfriend)

I’ve been working on “my bad habits”, and one of them is to not go from one relationship to another. Instead, I’m learning to have a relationship with myself. It’s been awhile to be honest, and it makes me think how much I’ve lost myself being around the wrong people. You wouldn’t lose yourself around the right ones, so that’s why it is important to really learn about yourself, and this includes having a relationship with yourself, first….

Put YOUrself first. This means your priorities, feelings, morals, values, instincts, etc. Whatever is a part of you, shall come first before anyone else’s. Learn to separate that from others. Learn to accept that your responsibility is about YOU. Learn to be a little more selfish. This will eventually allow you to become selfless, when the time is right, and with the right people. Don’t go against the timing of your SelfLove, always have this on the top of your list. Your self love is the ultimate importance of your vision. The other day I posted on IG and explained how it is important to treat yourself, take yourself out, and really begin doing things that you enjoy, even if its alone. One of the other trainers, and myself, was talking about how there is this stigma of having to do things in the company of others, and how we need to change this type of mentality. Why do, why wait, why not? Why do we do this to ourselves? We miss out on opportunities because of the company of someone else. We need to be a bit more assertive to our needs, wants, desires, and we need to be in more control of how we want to approach these things. We only miss out because of ourselves. We don’t need to put that responsibility on someone else, and for what? 

This brings the point to learn to date yourself. Act as if you are the boyfriend/girlfriend of whom you desire, and treat yourself as so. Put that responsibility of being there emotionally, physically, mentally, to yourself. Put the responsibility of support, love, creativity, inspiration, and really motivate yourself as if you are not yourself, know what I mean… Learn about yourself as if you are really dating yourself, get to know yourself a little bit more. I’ve been doing this for almost a year now, and I love it. I’m learning so much about myself that I haven’t realized some of myself before. It is new, and a bit tricky, but keep practicing, and keep yourself busy. When you begin feeling discouraged, use that time to take a break. Unwind, unplug, undo, wherever you are, just unYOU yourself and take a timeout. We can’t expect to go on full speed all the time, and we have to take a break sometimes so we can charge. Just like our phones, you know. Learn to charge your batteries. 

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Do something different! When I feel like I’m in a funk, or feel discouraged, or maybe a bit overwhelmed, I’ll find something different to do, even if it doesn’t require much. Think of this as a time to go on an adventure. Walk at a new park, read a new book, take yourself out on a date to a place where you haven’t ate before. Or do nothing, and relax.

Give yourself time to really figure YOU out, this will take time, but actually take the time by applying a little more effort into yourself and well-being. You’ll learn more about yourself, and begin admiring others who share these commonalities. 

Practice, Patience, and Perseverance,

M0j0

Your Passion Is Your Calling

Your Passion Is Your Calling

Take a pause and think of what you’re good at. Now think of how you can incorporate that into your daily life. Now this passion does not have to be a part of your job, it can be something like a hobby. But whatever it is let it call you, and answer it.

I previously wrote about distractions, and how it limits us from our actions, and this is pretty much like your passion trying to call you, but you keep declining the call, so it leaves you a message, and you still don’t return its call. Don’t allow time to pass you by so much that you’re missing out. Not necessarily on opportunities, but more so on  life. LIVE a little 😛

Tap in to what you’re good at, because it is not just about you, but instead the bigger picture. INFLUENCE! I was thinking the other day about how much I enjoy making an impact on people. Helping them, encouraging them, making them laugh, think, and feel good overall. This is something I’m good at. I’ve always been the light of a dark day, and this has always been a natural thing, but as I become older, I’m learning that not everyone enjoy this LOL. Making people feel good draws them closer to you because it is warm, non-judgmental bonding type of vibe, and you can’t get that everywhere. However, there are people who are not use to that type of treatment, so it makes them feel a little uncomfortable when you try to LIGHTen them up. That use to bother me, that they were bothered with my positivity, but then I realized that many people are not use to that. Some people thrive when negativity strikes, and that has nothing to do with you. But don’t allow that to distract you, keep driving and digging to your calling. 

Don’t allow your passion to become dampened because of what, or who is around you. This can be tricky, and damn right discouraging, but instead allow your passion to call you more, put that ringer on blast! When I say tap into your passion, I’m thinking intensely so, making it a part of your life, period! We all have all daily tasks and habits, but imagine how greater it is to include your passion into it. I bet you’d have a better day, or make someone else’s day better. If you like singing, then sing! any chance you get, and feel good about doing it too. Tap in to it more, by making time for it, because you want to. It begins with your mindset, and wanting to do something is better than having to do it. Don’t turn your passion into a chore. We already have enough going on as humans, so don’t make your passion a burden. Even if you become tied up with your responsibilities, make some type of effort to tap in. For example, I’ll carry a journal around so I can write, or sometimes in my phone. Doing this makes room for me to still enjoy making others feel good, while making myself feel good in the process. You want your passion to create balance to better serve you and others around you. It is your world. 

To be good at anything, you must practice it, so you can master it!

M0j0 

Different Breeds of People? Hmmm…

Different Breeds of People? Hmmm…

Makes you think right? Or does it make you feel uncomfortable with the thought.

Well it shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable, because we are all different, duuuuhhh! I think a lot of people forget that. We are animals, and some of of us monsters, but that’s the beauty of diversity. Even though it scares some people, it still doesn’t make it okay to mistreat others. We all have to do better at accepting differences, this is the only way for us to come together. I get stares sometimes, and it doesn’t make me uncomfortable, yet I get curious to know what the person is thinking. It probably doesn’t matter to them on my work ethic, how passionate I am about helping others, my college degrees, sense of humor, or how loving of a person I am.

People right a way make assumptions, and those assumptions alter their behavior towards you. So unfair, I know. And then you hear well people are who they are. Well I say we need to stop excusing that type of behavior. If someone has a small, narrow mind, then I wouldn’t want to be bothered by them anyhow, so in away, they are saving me a headache, and maybe vice versa, who knows. This is still not a reason to mistreat people, and assume the worse from them. I mean people need to get out of their head sometimes, but old habits can be hard to break. We all need to practice thinking about our “why”. If there is a thought (negative, or positive) ask yourself why. Ask yourself why the other person makes you feel the way you do. Ask yourself if this is something your learned, and how you can unlearn this feeling. Face your fears by asking yourself questions, maybe questions you are afraid to answer….Challenge yourself. 

Become friends with people who are different from you. It is a blessing, and you can truly learn from each other. I think it is important to start embracing more things than not. Life is too short to limit yourself, and this includes your thinking. Get out of the habit of thinking the worse, and began embracing the things you don’t understand. Give it patience, because the answers will come to you. And though there are different breeds of people on the world, we can only gravitate towards our own breed, but this doesn’t mean race, or culture, but more of a movement, a journey that you can share with others, and have open inviting arms.

Can we live? And allow others to live? That’ll always be the goal! 

M0j0

Don’t Fight The Feeling!

Don’t Fight The Feeling!

Represent it, and ever so beautifully….

We all have those days where we feel as if everything we do is not working. Why do we stress ourselves out like this? We are so mean to ourselves, and then expect others to treat us nicely. I don’t get that. We seriously beat ourselves up to the point that we don’t realize it, and all of a sudden our lives is spent on that type of vibe. We need to stop fighting ourselves, and learn to take it easy. Life is hard enough, so why add more stress?

Don’t fight the feeling. It applies to us in many ways, some of us don’t want to feel a certain way so we fight it, expressing ourselves in ways others may not understand. Other people may not fight the feeling, and maybe they are unsure of their feelings, maybe they don’t have any feelings LOL. Whatever the case, it is about application, and becoming more aware of our intentions. I believe it is best to not fight the feeling, but instead put good use to it. Our feelings are what makes us human. When you become more aware of your feelings, you begin to shift, and with the shift comes more understanding. So don’t fight the feeling, just represent those feelings, productively.

It feels better to be doing something productive, than to beat yourself up about it, right? Remember, it is okay to feel. Be mad, get upset, cry, laugh out loud. Whatever the feeling is, go ahead and be human about it, but then find ways to be inspired by it. Our feelings are what makes us human, so why not embody that. It is okay, so don’t fight it, or shy away from it. Learn to embrace it, and in a loving motivating way, for you, or maybe someone else. Not fighting the feeling, is learning to feel without acting. And if you must, do so with the intent to make others feel. 

Let your feelings win the battle sometimes,

M0j0

Money Makes The World Go Around,

But love will always make life worth living…

Money and love is what most of us want in life. But ultimately, it seems like we cannot have both, equally anyhow. We all think that these two will solve our problems, but sometimes these are the same two things that create them. We have to be more thoughtful into what we are putting in to our world. Sure money pays for a living, but love makes us feel like we are living. We have to learn to set aside the material to what truly matters. We all want, yet do we truly cater to our needs and those around us? Money can be just as blind as being in love, and combine the two we have paradise, or maybe a disaster. Be intentional when it comes to these life changers. Many of use don’t realize how we perceive money and love, so think about it and ask yourself. You can always make money, and from anything these days. But love, we need to be more careful, and in tuned with ourselves. Money comes and goes, but love will forever stay in your soul.

Just make it worthwhile.